EPISODE 135 - Lindsey Williams

EPISODE 135

LIFESTYLE BIOHACKING & CHILDBIRTH

W/ LINDSEY WILLIAMS

BIO 

Lindsey consults and coaches doula based on the cycles, seasons, and natural rhythms of life plus her years of formal education, additional training, and experience in the health and wellness realm.

Birthfit Founder and CEO

Chiropractor

Coffee Talk Queen

Strength and Conditioning Coach

Birth Doula

Yoga Instructor



"When you're living more in 5D, it's an awareness thing. It's an abundance thing that we're talking about. There's no duality. There's no right and wrong. It's just pure love everywhere."

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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

Baldo 0:00
Welcome to the How Do You Health? Podcast. It's been a crazy Friday, man. It's been awesome. It's been pretty fun. JOHN just came back from from a week long trip and in Denver or Colorado, I should say all over the place. So I'm sure we're here about some thoughts on that. And we're here with Dr. Lindsay Matthews. She's the CEO and founder of birth it, nailed it. And I'm TexMex Yogi. So let's get this party started.

Jon Mendoza 0:24
So for the people listening, I'm I'm also a chiropractor. And when Dr. Matthews came in earlier, she and another chiropractor sitting here we took a photo because it's rare that we have no chiropractors, like all in the same room, which is kind of weird, because it has like a ton of chiropractors.

Lindsey Matthews 0:40
There's a lot of chiropractors here. Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 0:42
yeah. So when I was in Colorado, there was only certain towns that chiropractors really, it seemed like that, like, you know, cuz that's like, Where's the chiropractor is that, you know, suburbs and you could well, not even the Denver just like a little town in Colorado. Like they didn't have chiropractic, you know,

Lindsey Matthews 0:57
a couple not allowed here.

Jon Mendoza 0:59
Well, we'll be talking about the progression, right. Yeah. All right. So everyone tells me Colorado is healthy. It's because the outdoors all the time. They move. Yeah, they moved there. And I said, that is a form of health, but then mental. mindsets are a form of health. Right. And so when we were starting right now, like Dr. Matthews is getting an IV right now as we're speaking, and and she was like, I'm super calm. I look, I look relaxed. I don't tend to get stressed. Yeah, right. I was like, awesome. So Sarah, is your secret? How come you don't get stressed? Well, these chill drinks.

Lindsey Matthews 1:33
No, I didn't used to be like, people have recently described me as like, super chill patient. And I guess my friends in general would say that. Like, nothing really pisses me off nothing like unless it dies at the very like it kind of the same. Yeah, but what

Jon Mendoza 1:52
what how would you know that? Like, because I see you get mad every once in a while. But what would get you mad?

Lindsey Matthews 1:58
Oh, man, I'm trying to think of like, the last time I was truly mad, like, anger. And, and it's been a while but like when I see something like unkind or like somebody taking advantage of something of somebody else, or taking advantage of the situation. Not being truthful, that kind of like, revs my engine a little bit.

Jon Mendoza 2:20
So would you say something?

Lindsey Matthews 2:22
Yeah, like, I've gotten better, like growing up or, you know, as a young adult, I was very reactive. Right? Because you're immature, you're in that almost rebellious mindset. But now I'm like, okay, brief. And then what's the choice of action? We want to go with here? Yeah. Um, so I think going back to your question about being super common chill, is it goes back to all the lifestyle practices. Yeah. I'm that like, I checked myself before,

Baldo 2:53
before you wreck yourself. Totally.

Lindsey Matthews 2:54
The best line ever? It's for real. Yeah. Yeah. And I don't like I'm not my Capricorn side of me Loves routine and loves like rituals. But I don't beat myself up. Like if I miss my morning movement, or my morning prayers, meditation, that kind of stuff. probably get in like five or six times a week. And then maybe we sleep in Yeah, one of the days. But yeah, they're there to check me for sure. Yeah, yeah. See if I need to apologize to anybody from the day before making poor decisions to make sure I'm on the right path that I want to be on.

Jon Mendoza 3:34
So do you go back and like clean up your messes? So you're doing like that's how you keep chokers? You're like I don't have any loose ends.

Lindsey Matthews 3:42
Well messes in the sense of like, if I messed up like yeah, behavior wise. Yeah. Um, yeah, like I look at kind of like relationships in my life. And I want to say more so now I I'm better at living in alignment with like my values and stuff than I was in like my early 20s or you know, if you're in a relationship you can kind of like teeter off one way or another. If you don't have things like check you but um, yeah, whenever I started down like the lifestyle journey or like, you know, some people say lifestyle biohacking. However you want to, like, live your life optimally. I did have to clean up some relationships for sure. Where I was like, Oh, I probably should own my shit in that, in that relationship or that friendship. haven't talked to that person in a while. Let me check back in or even with, you know, my parents or my siblings, or you know, I can't imagine that I was always, you know, a ray of sunshine.

Jon Mendoza 4:45
Yeah, this is different than you were before. I'm

Lindsey Matthews 4:48
not too different. Like I'm probably painting this picture, but

Dr. Jekyll is like I spend every day making up for all

my did I forget things Avellino me like a short period of time, but like I grew up in Texas, I grew up in New Braunfels. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Raised forever, right. And then I moved to Los Angeles to go to chiropractic school in 2006. Which school was it? It was called La CC, Los Angeles, chiropractic college. And then now it's called scuzz. For any chiropractors listening, they know exactly what that is. And it's Southern California University of Health Sciences. And right before that, I went to Texas a&m, believe it or not, people are always so surprised to hear that you're Aggie? Yeah. And

I did graduate undergrad there.

I did my undergrad there. I did pre med and studied biology. And whenever people find out I'm like, yeah, I'm the proudest member. They're like, No, you're not. Like, Yes, I am. It's just the maroon is inside. That's awesome. That's awesome.

Yeah. Because he was either you tear or that right? Yeah. And I think because

I lived in New Braunfels. And I was always like, a little bit of a free spirit going against, like, whatever mainstream was, at the time. They expected me to go to Texas. And even though that's like the hippie school, and I say that in quotations in Texas,

like, it's just, I mean, it is though.

Like, I was like, Oh, I'm gonna do the exact opposite of what everybody expects of me and go to Texas a&m

Jon Mendoza 6:29
in College Station. But anyway, I ran a College Station. That's all there is out there. Just school.

Lindsey Matthews 6:34
Yeah. Which I think was great for me. Yeah. Because he, like if I was in a big city, I think about this, like if I was in a city like Austin or La, la is like, twice, three times. I don't know how big but a lot bigger than Austin, New York or any cities with the university. Like I would have gotten in way more trouble.

I mean, we went to school in San Antonio, we got a lot of trouble. We got a lot of trouble.

Yeah, San Antonio is not like, I feel like there's more things to get in trouble with an Austin. Maybe more thing?

Well, a lot of why we got in trouble because we came to Austin.

Oh my gosh.

Jon Mendoza 7:13
I mean, Austin is a playground for night, we

Lindsey Matthews 7:15
would come to Austin to

Jon Mendoza 7:16
everyone does. Everyone goes to Sixth Street. Yeah, hang out, like, all weekend. And because I lived in Austin, we'd always just stay like my house. You know, people clearly go to victory now. Like, John's parents will make us breakfast the next day, you know,

Lindsey Matthews 7:29
jackpot. I don't have class to one anyway. Yeah. Right. Like so.

Jon Mendoza 7:32
Yeah. I mean, like, then it was probably quick, like an hour. Oh, yeah. The drive if you did stupid stuff, like you're like you leave the bars down there. And like, I'm gonna go up to Austin and go Yeah, bars up there. Like, what? Till 2am?

Yeah, yeah.

And it's funny because I look back on it now. And I, you know, I college was very different for both of us. But we were very similar. And like, the people we hung out with the mindset that we had, and it helped us kind of get to this point now because like, basically going undergrad, defined me now even though at the time I didn't think it was I was kind of almost lost.

Lindsey Matthews 8:06
I was for sure. loss. Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 8:08
I think most people in their early 20s you might not know what the hell you're doing with yourself.

Lindsey Matthews 8:12
No, I was like trying everything right.

Jon Mendoza 8:15
But college right. Every experience, you're away from home, you can do whatever you want. Yeah, all of a sudden the world opens up to you. Yeah. You like when I was in college? 911. Happened?

Lindsey Matthews 8:26
Same freshman year. Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 8:27
Yeah. So then you Oh, your mind changes about everything you get and everything. You're like, why did this happen? And then what kind of world are we live in? Right? And then then flash forward? Now? It's the same thing. Yeah. It's the same thing. Oh,

Lindsey Matthews 8:39
wait, I feel like we were talking. Maybe it was not us. But I feel like we had a conversation about 911. Before I did, we probably did.

Jon Mendoza 8:47
Because when I when I look at it, it's more of like, that term brings up a lot of different emotions for people. Absolutely. Just like what's going on right now? Yeah. And so it triggers stuffing in people to where they become divided.

Lindsey Matthews 9:00
They Yeah, they're it's one of those polarizing topics.

Jon Mendoza 9:03
Yeah. And I'm like, well, we're on the same side here. Yeah. You know, why are we just like, at 1.1 of my friends who's now in the military. He said, Why don't you get out of this country, if you don't really like, you know, what our leaders are doing? I don't agree with them. I'm not saying that I am unpatriotic. I thought there was no point of being a pig. Yeah, like, trying to question your leadership. That's when we started this country on and you flash forward. Now. We have conversations that are very different, like, you know,

Lindsey Matthews 9:28
can't say anything right now.

Jon Mendoza 9:31
I mean, you really can't because of the way people respond and react, and I'm just like, Alright, well, what's the bigger picture here? Right? If I see someone who's stressing about everything that's going on here, I'm not going to have that conversation, not because they're talking politics, but because I don't want their stress energy.

Lindsey Matthews 9:45
Right, you know, it's, yeah, it's almost like living in a different playing field of like, 2d versus 3d versus five D. I don't know if y'all

Jon Mendoza 9:55
know. The five D again, because we had that talk last week or two weeks ago.

Lindsey Matthews 9:59
Well I don't okay. I wouldn't say I've fully grasped it. But when you're living more in five D, it's an awareness thing. It's an abundance thing that we're talking about. There's no duality. There's no right and wrong. It's just pure love everywhere. And if you've done I mean, if you've done any sacred ceremonies, like you've might have experienced some on some level there. Yeah. Um, but that's what people I think are referring to right now. And I'm kind of like, how crazy do we want to get right now? But like we can craziness. Yeah, some of the the filters and the groups and the things that I'm part of, like, refer to five d a lot right now. Because it's just, if you're stuck in that anti Trump or anti Biden or anti this and anti mass mass, whatever, then it's either or it's like, right or wrong in your world. There's no room for any kind of being a human. There's no and no variation, no spectrum, nothing. And you're severely limiting yourself. I agree.

Jon Mendoza 11:10
Yeah, we've talked about it were like, because you talk about space all the time. And if you're like in space, it's not necessarily like purgatory. Yeah, you're not restricted. You're everything. So it's like if your emotion is every single emotion across the board, or your mental well, being is everything you could ever imagine all happening at one second. Mm hmm. You're nothing really because you're everything at the same time. You can find it right. Yeah, it's more of like, I can be any emotion. Any thought any person I want to be right now. I can take form of anything. I can be a solid, liquid. Yeah, yes. Because I'm energy.

Lindsey Matthews 11:43
Yeah, that's all I am. I'm just a little earlier we talked about like, I feel like I didn't do anything because I did everything. I did everything.

Today, yeah. So it's interesting, right? Because it's the same thing. But yeah, in a different sense. Now I'm talking I was talking about like, getting shit done around the office. I got a lot of shit done, but it felt like I did nothing. You got

nothing done.

Yeah. Cuz I think anything of my checklist done

Jon Mendoza 12:09
well, it's funny because, um, he a couple, it was like, a month or two ago, he came in. And he's like, I got everything done on my checklist. And me and Aaron looked up are like, That's awesome, man. Good for you get back to work. It was funny, because your accomplishment was you made it to do list accomplished it? Yeah. If you don't accomplish that to do list, I bet it drives you nuts, isn't it?

Lindsey Matthews 12:30
Well, yeah, cuz it's only three things on there.

You're like, it's three major things I

got to get done. With the longer list is my not to do listen, I get actually more upset about like, shit. I did five of those things. I said I wasn't going to

Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 12:48
you have a not to do list? Yeah.

Lindsey Matthews 12:54
Oh my god. This is why your business partners.

Jon Mendoza 13:01
It's like a Ying and Yang. Yeah, I say this, but the energy is very similar. So like I can haven't finished a conversation and vice versa. But it's like, if you look at a glass half full glass half empty, we both look at his glass half full. But I'm looking at it from the left side or from the right side. So we see something different. Yeah, it'd be very different relationship if he's glass half full, glass half empty all the time. Because

Lindsey Matthews 13:24
he's more like we're gonna this hot, we're gonna fill it and I'm just like, Oh, it's gonna be full. It's already filled.

Jon Mendoza 13:33
filled, you're drinking from it now? And I'm like, No, I'm not I'm staring at right now. Like, there it is. Well, just like when that guy Greg was a while ago. He's like, I'm tapping into my future self. I was like, that's cool. Your future self is you today. So the fifth dimension must be like, I'm aware of who I am, and aware that I'm going to change and grow. Mm hmm. And in the future, I'm going to be completely different. But I want to envision what I could be in the future. By doing sorry. Yeah, it's already it is. So it's like, it's very simple. Like, I'm going to wear a blue shirt today. Like I got up to them wear a blue shirt, and then you visualize yourself in a blue shirt. Yeah, you manifested that.

Lindsey Matthews 14:12
Tapping into energy is like the core of chiropractic, right? Like,

Oh, of course. Oh, yeah.

Like, because I have that one book that you gave me that.

Jon Mendoza 14:22
I can apply finish ology,

Lindsey Matthews 14:23
right. So it's like, it's all energy. And I'm just like, Okay, well, this is easy. You know?

Is it everything energy?

But it's just interesting that it's like, Okay, so that is recognized as a science, right? Or chiropractic is at least, right? Because there's, you get an MD or you get a you get a DC. Yeah, do you see? But yet, it's still not necessarily recognized, if not general. Energy work by society. Yeah. Well,

Jon Mendoza 14:50
I'll tell you this right now. If you want to get off all propaganda and agenda, it happened with chiropractic. So there was a vendetta against chiropody profession for the Medical Association to try to eliminate it. I just happened to look up Wilkes vs ama back in the 70s. So when you have intention, like anything in this world, when you have intention to do something good or bad, it eventually comes out. And so chiropractic is coming out now is great, because it's been this natural movement with treating the body all along was what people wanted. chiropractors used to get thrown in jail. And there'd be lines of patients waiting for them as soon as they came out. Because they knew this was a different approach, it was very natural as healing the body. And just like any modality, you're open to the idea of do no harm. And so if you look and you say, Alright, we're to help chiropractors don't get the recognition they deserve. You say, Well, let's look at physicians real quick. Someone who goes to medical school goes there for seven years comes out to be prescribing a medication. That is not anything they were taught. You're taught about these new medications from the farmer apps and the commercials and all the money that's basically told to them to say, prescribe this. And so doctors of medicine don't look inside the body to heal themselves. They look for things outside the body to heal internally, as opposed to chiropractor to say, you can heal from internally. That's why Joe dispenza resonates with everyone, because Ben said the same thing. You have the hideout inside out. Yeah, medicine says outside. Yeah. And like exploratory surgery, and there's

Lindsey Matthews 16:22
three surgeries. And there's a role for that. Right, like the outside in. But what if you have

Jon Mendoza 16:27
acute injuries? And you have like, you know, internal bleeding? Yeah, let's open you up. Yeah, stop the bleed. Yeah. But if it's like, we don't know, where this, you know, Phantom stomach pains coming from? It's not like, it's opened me up for that reason, you know?

Lindsey Matthews 16:39
Yeah, it is. It's such a different philosophy. And I think, you know, especially us and our even probably our parents generation, you know, so even like relating this back to, like childbirth, I did a little bit of history searching, digging. And we talked about childbirth, and the history of childbirth in America, like super brief in our seminars, and, you know, our generation. So I'm 37, I had to think about that a hot Second, the board in like the early 80s. And then my mom, she was born in 1955. And so right around 1950s was when all the birth, birth from, you know, whatever, they took notes about birth, birth got moved from home to the hospital around the 1950s. If you go back 50 years prior to like the beginning of the 19 hundred's birth use 97 98% of the time would happen in the home, and midwives would travel to the home and help birth babies. And then like when the AMA was formed, and all of the institutions and the universities started taking off, and then all of a sudden, okay, doctors, and I don't think this was malicious at all, I think it's just part of, they wanted to serve and be of use, and now they're seeing that childbirth is something that was going to be continuous and it was going to be happening. And like forever, like babies are born every day. And so if they could learn childbirth, they'd for sure make money, as you know, a general general doc. And so that's how stuff started to shift a little bit. And like that's very rudimentary, very, very simple. But basically the midwives of our country, and even the black granny midwives of the South, like Texas, Louisiana, Alabama, those were basically the teachers of childbirth for us, but they don't get any credit. And then, you know, childbirth got moved to the hospitals. And now it's starting to be more of an industrialized process. And fast forward, you know, early 1980s, majority of the child births are happening in the hospitals. You ask people, like 10 years ago, what's a midwife and people didn't know what a midwife was. Just like chiropractic follow a very similar, like chiropractic, midwifery, homeopathy, all of that got such a bad rap when the AMA took off in America. And it's because the AMA got so much funding from families and institutions like the Rockefellers. Yeah. Sue Nichols pharmaceuticals. And so that's kind of where, okay, the propaganda, the marketing industry, all of that took off. So if you look at our parents, they were heavily pushed formula. They were heavily pushed TV dinners, convenience, help the working mom. And yeah, like, I remember my mom specifically saying, you know, I wanted to get back to the workforce. So I didn't breastfeed because she wasn't taught about the benefits of breastfeeding. That Breast milk is like gold. And what she was, she was part of the feminist movement or the feminists like, I'm gonna go back to work and she had a great job. And she made it back to work in three months and, you know, whatever, whatever. But that's like, kind of the lie they were fed, then, you know, like, Okay, back to work formula formula will save you TV dinners, convenient drive, throughs were taken off. And then in the early 80s, or 90s, mid 80s, like 1986, I believe, was the end, this is going to probably stir the pot, the vaccine act or the Vaccine Injury,

Baldo 20:38
like stirring the pot.

Lindsey Matthews 20:39
So this is basically when and I believe that's the year, vaccines got cleared of all liability. Yeah. And since now, like, and basically what that means is, you can sue McDonald's for a hot cup of coffee, but you can't sue the manufacturers of a vaccine, for paralyzing your child. And so, okay, that gave all the big pharmaceutical companies the green light to go to, oh, shit, we're not, we're not held accountable for making vaccines. Let's it's production time. And so, you know, we probably grew up in the time where there was like, 1213 vaccinations. Now, by the time a child's 18, they're fed, if they go along with the CDC schedule, they're injected about 69 times. It's not wild.

Baldo 21:31
That's why

Lindsey Matthews 21:32
so, so let me add this to since like, I was going through all that's nuts. Yeah. So one of the reasons why there's a few reasons why I started birth fit, but one of the reasons was to focus on what I call the motherhood transition time window. And that's basically from conception to the end of the first year of life that 12 months postpartum. And I wanted to focus on this time, because I was digging and doing research. And I was like, Okay, we got it, like myself and other cases that I would see. But okay, we got to keep growing and going further back to like, in our lives, okay, we got to go to when we were children when we were babies, and it was like, No, we got to go in the womb. And that's where like our environments are born. That's mom, dad, there's two sets of genes that go into making a baby, no matter if it's, you know, sexual intercourse or test tubes, like there's two sets of genes. And that plays a role in, you know, in this nucleus. And, yeah, and so that, just that, that's one of the reasons and I started looking at, okay, from preconception, usually about three months is when I tell people if you know, you want to conceive, at least plan three months in advance, and then through the 12 months postpartum, that is the most neuroplastic most, most influential time for us as humans. And a year over here, like, yeah, I'm listening, you're like getting it. Yeah. But it is when we have the most impact on our health, our movement, our breath, everything throughout the rest of our life. And it's like we were talking about earlier, this chiropractor sitting here, like when you adjust babies, like adjusting babies in the first year of life, they might need one adjustment, and then their whole world has changed. But, you know, imagine and I say that, because we just mentioned vaccines, but if you think about all the shit that a new human gets in there, their world within the first year, yeah, it could, all of it can just wait. It could just wait,

Jon Mendoza 23:44
I'll tell you this medical intervention is not also always needed. Right? And all the support example. So a perfect example was my wife and I gave birth to what she did, obviously, she was there I was there. I was helping, like, didn't trust me. I was there helping. So I was up there for six hours in the middle of night holding her while she you know, we did the old school, like sit on the physio ball, and then did the warm bathtub. Yeah, though. The it's like the midwife like, why they call it midwife value or something like that. Something like that was like, Alright, that's cool. But it worked. And anyway, so I adjusted Merrick throughout the entire

Lindsey Matthews 24:22
thing. Okay,

Jon Mendoza 24:24
great. Her delivery was great was natural, which we need to talk about anywhere in a second. But when we got done, the doctor, or the nurse came over and said, All right, do you want this white man on the baby's eye? Hmm. It was an antibiotic, erythromycin, myosin, and I was like, No, well, that's for hepatitis B. Yeah. Yeah. I said, Well, we've been screened Hepatitis B, we're gonna just we're good. So we don't need it. She looked at me like, Okay. Most people just say yes, but okay. And I sign off. I said, No, is incredible, because I had to have knowledge of what that was what they were presenting, and if I didn't have it, you just send it I would sign it. Yeah. And I had Some people tell me that, well don't bathe your baby for the first week. See how long you can go. And I'm like, why they're like, well, the mucosa. And all that sheath that they basically get layered with when they go through the canal is all protective. It's like a protective shield. And they're building immunity. So you when you wipe it off, you're wiping off it immunity is building up. Most people don't think about it, because they'll they're having planned c sections now. I'm being in debt. Now, you talk about and I wonder if there's a correlation you talked about in the 80s, or whatever was when they started putting everyone back in the hospitals. Mm hmm. C section started rising up. And you imagine now there's a natural process of receiving the final piece of your development through the birth canal, you're molding your head or molding your head, you're getting this invisible sheath over you, right. And then there's the passage like this was was intended,

Lindsey Matthews 25:51
it's so important for your gut health, everything.

Jon Mendoza 25:54
Yes. And if you don't get that, what I look at now is all like a rite of passage. Well, how many c sections are linked to long term health issues? So there knows, she knows,

Lindsey Matthews 26:04
she knows. She knows it. So okay, there's, I wouldn't say there's a ton of studies, but in the last couple of years, more and more studies have shown that, um, babies that don't pass through the birth canal, have, they are established with a different gut flora? Yep. Prior or as soon as they enter Earth side, compared to babies that are born via surgery slash c section. Yeah. And then those babies that are born via c section have higher risk of chronic health issues, allergies, asthma, skin issues, any of that all the A's ATD, ADHD autism spectrum, as compared to the ones that are born vaginally, where they go through that rite of passage and takes the head molding because babies, their their brain is not the sutures aren't solidified yet. They're not there. So molt like, you can move them. They literally go, but it's designed to go through the vaginal canal. And they're designed to like get an eye just kind of like my face. But to get all of that vaginal flora, the gut biome that was secreted from mom and ingest it in their skin and their mouth and their nose. Yes. And that is ideally laid down is like one of the foundational pieces of our gut health of us defining Yeah. And then the next piece would be breast milk. Yeah, so those are the studies that are coming out as far as like digital versus to Syrian. And one of the like, it's crazy, because we have a one in three so Syrian rate in our country. Yeah.

Baldo 27:48
Is that high? Really?

Lindsey Matthews 27:50
Yeah. So in some states, like Texas, even I believe has 33 to 37%. And I think New York and maybe Florida have a bit higher too. But that's not that is not good, because like somebody when I don't know how credible The World Health Organization is these days, but in general, they say 10 to 15% is like the max c section rate that you want in your country in order for the whole population to be healthy in general. And then there's another doctor Michelle ODOT, who's a French ob gyn he's in his 90s and brilliant doctor like he could sit over here and recite studies to tell you what month what you're that he did those studies, but living legend and he wrote the book, childbirth and the future of homosapiens and then many other books but in his book he talks about how basically if you have like 40 to 50% susteren rate or more you know what we're at or we're headed trending to, then you're basically selecting against a population. So the humans if we go any higher like and this is like evolution biology talk, if we get any higher on the dank c section rate scale, then we're naturally selecting against ourselves. Yeah.

Because then we make ourselves more susceptible to things like Coronavirus,

easier to kill. Yeah, I

Jon Mendoza 29:24
just think the medical society is basically populating the control of all the all the health of this of this country right now with the vaccines. It's no coincidence that the vaccine number ministrations went up the second that there was they were not held liable. Yeah. And then the ingredients is just like, Oh, yeah, the preservatives are in there. Like Yeah, they took mercury out. But there's high doses of aluminum. And if you look and I know you have numbers to back this up to but like, let's, let's just focus on vaccines for a second. So the aluminum toxicity for a developing fetus. It's very, very low. It's about You know, if I throw a number out there, it might be like 10 or 20 milligrams of aluminum you're allowed to administer into this baby. Well, vaccines, one alone probably has like three or four times that I mean, oh, yeah, bro. Yeah, like I'm serious. It's like way more than that. So the toxicity levels are raised for vaccines, even though it specifically says the developing fetus can't handle that much. their nervous system can't handle it. But then you throw in with the vaccines, they have look up ingredients. It's like fetal monkey kidney tissue, like aborted tissue aborted tissue. Yeah. So if you look at what we're putting our bodies and putting our kids buys a second they come out, we remove breast milk, because they said, Oh, you're gonna go back to work. You can't breast milk, or you want to pop by, Oh, you don't want to miss work? Let's do a C section. And Deuce, right. Well, let's do. Let's, let's do this. Get a nanny. Mm hmm. When you go back to work, right. And then worse, like, they don't do anything from the male side. So like one of the things that I did when the babies are both born, I took my shirt off. Mm hmm. skin to skin and skin to skin right after mom did, right. Yeah. And they picked up on my, my smell, they picked up on it, they finally associated a face with the voice, and all that. And so all these little things are important. All these little things are so vital. And we're stepping away from this natural process to where you mentioned, you're doing a water birth or you're doing a birth at home, people look at you like you're crazy. How can I do that?

Lindsey Matthews 31:23
so dangerous?

Jon Mendoza 31:24
Yeah, chiropractic students in your class went through natural child. Yeah, right. Yeah, they were fine.

Lindsey Matthews 31:30
Yeah. One even like I have some friends here. And there's there's a few sisters. But their whole family was born at home. And I've known them for a while and I was like, wait a sec. You got that perspective on life? I didn't get that. Like, whoa, yeah. How lucky are you? Yeah, but yeah, like if regular high school like none of it grow. Like while I was growing up, I was like, I can I say my whole childhood. adolescence was standard American. Like I thought birth was what happened on the movies or your water broke? Yeah. Yeah. And then you're cursing at the guy and you're in the hospital, you're pushing nothing like that. Nothing

Jon Mendoza 32:12
like that. Like America second baby. She's like, I think I need to peed on myself. my water broke. Because that's how it was. So I'm looking up and you see, and it's not like the movies. And I'm even training this like, of course, it's not right. You're trained. You're trained to how to catch the baby. Yeah, and how to clean up the baby. But then when I noticed this, you're not really trained on how to handle it after. Like, there's no fault with the mom afterwards. So like, they'll give you a manual afterwards. But then they don't give the mama manual to say, hey, there's something called postpartum depression coming up. Good luck. Yeah, you're,

Lindsey Matthews 32:46
yeah, everything's different. Your whole world shifted. Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 32:49
yeah. So when that happened, no longer you a wife, your mother?

Lindsey Matthews 32:54
Well, you imagine you have to repair the husband for that too?

Jon Mendoza 32:57
Well, even then, it's like you're caring for this person, and you're a team. But everything that you're giving is guidance and knowledge and energy. And there's your DNA. Like I see, it's weird, because you'll see like the kids faces and they look like me at one point. Or they'll look at Merrick. And I'm like, they're like America's dad. And I'm like, that's crazy, because they're evolving. And then you realize all the way down to your DNA. And Sony even told me this to your emotional trauma can be passed through your genes on Yeah, offspring. For sure. So your trauma that you had when you were 10 got passed along to your kid and they were born. And there's something embedded in that they just kind of sense that there's something there.

Lindsey Matthews 33:35
Yeah. Right. It's a knowing Yeah. Cuz

Jon Mendoza 33:38
remembering you grew up and say I pass this along. And it's so fascinating to think about how ingrained our genetics are from, you know, past lives. reincarnation, what do you get from your environment? Like, imagine babies in there you start, you know, playing music for that baby. Yeah, yeah. You know, could you teach that baby a second language? You know, by the time they come in? I

Lindsey Matthews 33:59
hope so.

Jon Mendoza 34:01
There's so much we don't know. And the kids are just,

Lindsey Matthews 34:04
I made this sound thing is really cool. Because I think well, it for me, that's when I started like, some aha light bulbs would go off, like working on women touching their bellies, talking to them, being with them, like, you know, two or three times a week throughout their pregnancy. And then when they bring the kid out, you know, back into the office or to see me after birth, and the kid just kind of like recognizes my voice my energy. And they calm down. They're like, Oh, like, I know you.

Jon Mendoza 34:35
Yeah. Yeah. So So bring up a good point. Do you adjust to pregnant women? Yes. How should pregnant women get adjusted?

Lindsey Matthews 34:43
Absolutely. Why? Haha. Oh, man, because your body is changing every single day. Every single day, you're working with a new body. And like you were talking about earlier, it's all energy, right? And so like one of the ways I like to explain how I work Work with women and chiropractic is I'm connecting through you through me through like our physical bodies to your nervous system. And whatever the higher power is telling me to adjust, I'm adjusting. I'm doing motion palpation I'm feeling but I'm literally connecting with your nervous system, and ideally opening up channels of communication from your brain, your spinal cord to the rest of your body. So if you think about it, the uterus is sitting in the pelvic bowl. And there's nerves that innervate the uterus, right? There's nerves that are important for kind of the blood flow, everything that's going on during pregnancy, and then come labor and delivery. And, like, I don't know about you, but for me, I like I would want all those channels open and communicating. And I would want my joints like my sacral iliac joints and my hips and everything moving. So there's nothing stagnant or nothing stuck. So like one of the ways I like to explain so people like the musculoskeletal visualization is, the uterus is hanging out inside the pelvic bone, it attaches to the pelvis, via ligaments. So think of it like a hammock in there, your pelvic floor is this hammock uterus is on top of this baby's growing. And so if like your hip in the front, on your left side is tighter than your hip on the front on the right side, or vice versa. You pull in like your shirt, it affects you know, the fascia down the line, same thing happens. And so baby is in there. And babies like moving around, swimming around, working with whatever room they got. And I like to describe them as like a messy college student routine. Because if you remember, like, I remember my college days, and any place I rented, I didn't exactly take the utmost care of it. But babies like this is my world, I'm just like swimming around doing my thing. And wherever their space baby is gonna go. So on the most simplest terms, if there's not a lot of space, in the pelvic bowl with a too tight pelvic floor, or, you know, a funky hip on one side, then baby's gonna have more space on the other side. And he may he or she may present as breech or transverse or, you know, anything but head down. And for birth, we really would prefer a head down baby with their back to our belly button, so that they can like kind of corkscrew out. Babies can be born vaginally breech, if if they choose it, you know, that's only like a small percent of the population, maybe less than 5%. But ideally, you want them head down so they can like corkscrew out. And so chiropractic care, right? Like, go back to that you want to be functioning as like your most optimal self, so that when labor and delivery comes, you're able to dance with baby, because you're gonna have to move your hips and move all around and you want all the channels open and communicating.

Jon Mendoza 38:07
That's awesome. You explain Webster's technique.

Lindsey Matthews 38:11
Okay, so

Jon Mendoza 38:14
we got a spot here.

Lindsey Matthews 38:15
I know. I'm like, What is the definition? They want

Jon Mendoza 38:19
to just explain what Webster's tech.

Lindsey Matthews 38:21
Yeah, totally. So Webster technique is basically the most well known chiropractic prenatal technique. And it's a technique and approach designed for balancing the pelvis. And it was started by Larry Webster and then carried on by genome who passed away last year. And now, Dr. Pam stone is the one teaching the seminar. But basically, it's looking at the pelvis. And, you know, kind of doing what I was just talking about where you look at which sides more posterior, which is more anterior, and it's literally a sacrum pelvic balancing technique. And for anybody that's kind of new to chiropractic, or you know, they're if they're looking for a prenatal chiropractor, it's the most rudimentary thing. I could say that a chiropractor needs. You know, if you're going to see somebody for Chiropractic and pregnancy, make sure they're Webster trained. Just because I say most of our adjustments are done prone. We're in chiropractic prone or supine, right, especially as the belly grows. If you like me, you can adjust me on my side, you know, because I don't have a big old belly. But the reason for that is because we want the spine to kind of like stay as straight as possible, and not put as much torque on the ligaments inside the pelvis. Yeah, yeah. So yeah, we address the pelvis, the ligaments, and the baby and the baby. Yeah. And what are you gonna just baby while it's in? Well here, you just set up the environment. For the baby,

Jon Mendoza 40:00
but really what you do is imagine if the baby is breached, and turn around the wrong way. chiropractors on the surface of the belly can rearrange the position of the baby to be ready to be delivered. I mean, that's really what it comes

Baldo 40:13
knocking it into place.

Lindsey Matthews 40:15
Yeah, they come over here.

Jon Mendoza 40:17
And it's crazy, because this has been done forever. Mm hmm. And that's awesome. And how many people would like

Lindsey Matthews 40:22
they did it before? Like, if you think about manual therapy, like hands on therapy, it was around way before chiropractic way before osteopathy way before. There were terms given to me was almost no, no,

that doesn't feel right.

Yeah, like, ooh, I don't know about

Yeah, I think when you right, like, she's pregnant, and that feels right. So let's make you feel that. Right. Like, that's

that touch feels good.

Jon Mendoza 40:48
Yeah. The practitioner 100 years ago, who didn't have access to an MRI machine? Yeah, for sound down the road, you had to make a clinical judgment based off the idea like, Huh, doesn't seem right. I can feel the bottom over here and the heads over here, let's shift it. And then boom, the baby's writing now and then

Lindsey Matthews 41:06
going back, but that's so much more intuitive. I feel like

Jon Mendoza 41:09
but the thing is, think

Lindsey Matthews 41:10
about this. I don't know why I'm gonna make this about about climbing. But like, any analogy that was like, whenever I'm climbing, like sometimes I'm like, oh, like that's the route right? And I get so like, hell bent about like, and then when I'm there, I'm like, Oh, shit, like, but this is it. Like, I know, I already decided like, this is it. But when it's like dark, and I can't see you're out. And I'm just feeling my way through. I feel like I can't climb easier because I'm using just like, my gut, my other senses, my gut.

Jon Mendoza 41:40
But imagine you find the opening and the open is the size of your hand.

Lindsey Matthews 41:44
Or your fist. Well, I mean, that's a great grip.

Jon Mendoza 41:46
No, but your whole body has to go to serve

Lindsey Matthews 41:49
the baby. And

Jon Mendoza 41:51
so you once you find it, you're like, Okay, I found where to go. Now you have to push through it. Yeah. And so the canal, what's incredible about the ligaments is a woman's pelvis is allowed to expand. The ligaments get so women are fucking off, they get so relaxed, that they expand that childbearing hips kind of method. They open up. Yeah, because you're having to pass a watermelon through something the size of like a grapefruit. And so you have to like,

Lindsey Matthews 42:17
get 10 centimeters wide.

Jon Mendoza 42:21
Yes. But then here's the other thing. I love women. Talk about taking a step further. Nowadays, after you give birth, that's not where it stops for the continuation of the delivery. The placenta. Mm hmm. So nowadays, you can encapsulate the placenta and eat the placenta. Mm hmm. after delivery, we're gonna make a supplement. Well, there's no you py One, two, because exosomes?

Lindsey Matthews 42:47
Well, I don't know, I hear. I don't know how I entirely feel about it, eating the placenta. I'm just because like, part of what I dug into, like research wise was different cultures around the world will take the placenta and plant it somewhere. Okay, um, you know, there's so many different rituals around the placenta around the world, it's like, well let people do what they want. Now, I have seen amazing things like I'm sure you've seen where like somebody is experiencing postpartum, like some see something on the P mad spectrum, so postpartum mental anxiety disorder, depression, anxiety, any anything like that. And you take some placenta and capsulated pills, and it helps so much. whereas others you know, like my, my good friend who just gave birth to her second, she didn't do anything placenta wise, but she ate a ton of organ meats after like, real like grass fed. And so that was kind of like, I see those kind of being like, Okay, you got your, your organs from that. Yeah, so I think it's like, I don't know if I have a preference. I don't know what I would do if I was pregnant. But know that the options there to like, you can encapsulate it you can put in a smoothie, you can plant it, you can dry it, do whatever you want. Make it

I imagine making a dish kind of like three bus like lime and salt and like some like onions and cilantro, like crispy. Make them crispy. We'll see what I can do with some eggs on the side eggs. Well, I mean, I know taco

Jon Mendoza 44:29
you're gonna have to dish it up that way because your bases carrying a sack of just all the detox. Yeah. toxins that are leftover. I'd rather you just the vocal cord.

Lindsey Matthews 44:37
Mm hmm. Well, that's actually that's what I was thinking about the umbilical cord because it's it's like a creeper.

Jon Mendoza 44:42
Yeah, that's but but for stem cells that make it taste good. They get them bilkul cord, right cuz that's all the growth factors that are in there. Oh, yeah, dude. Yeah. So what you can also do is freeze the umbilical cord or part of it in a cryotherapy chamber. And then what would happen is you have to themselves for that kid whenever they grow up, so if they need a transplant, they can go back to that. That's what they're doing. They can take that and have a transplant made out of it. But they, I mean, it's kind of crazy. Because if you have that encapsulated, you know, I think it's even heard that it helps, like, with PTSD, like the placenta does. And then of course, the vocal cord. I think you have to pay like a lot of money. Yeah, they're doing a trust fund. There's like, we're just gonna,

Lindsey Matthews 45:26
we're just gonna bank the stem cells, we're gonna bank your stem cells

Jon Mendoza 45:29
thing, which I'd kind of rather have more in the long run. Right? Because you can. I mean, everyone wants wealth, but everyone really wants health.

Lindsey Matthews 45:37
Health is well.

Jon Mendoza 45:39
Right. And you can get all the money in the world, and they might not be able to buy that health. Yeah, right. Yeah. So anything that you can have this progressive is up there. Yeah. I know. You had one last thing you wanted to talk about? We talked about this morning.

Lindsey Matthews 45:57
Oh, yeah. orgasms and like thinking up orgasm?

Jon Mendoza 46:01
Yeah. Well, I just find it fascinating because since we're already down there on that subject, right, like,

Lindsey Matthews 46:06
no topic is like off limits for me.

Jon Mendoza 46:11
By photo has to go cuz the listeners, he's got a date, just FYI. Ah,

Lindsey Matthews 46:15
he might practice thinking.

So like, I say, no topic is off limits. Because if, as you've experienced, like, all kinds of shit happens during childbirth in the motherhood transition. And for those of you that don't know, like, the different hats I wear is chiropractor, and then a birth doula. And I spent like my trainings and NLP and then yoga and strength and conditioning. But I spend a lot of time with people. And so then they get really open with me. And, you know, sometimes it turns into like, a weird looking super chill therapy session. Yeah. And, you know, especially on the postpartum side, where it's like, hey, like, we're, I'm trying to sync back up with my husband, my partner, we had sex, it was majorly awkward. I have an orgasm. Like, I don't even know what's going on down there. Blah, blah, blah. So I had one question come up. This was last week or the week before? And this one was asking, Is it possible to sync up orgasms? Or is this like, just not a thing? And, you know, for her to ask that A is like, super courageous. Yep. And also, if she has that question, there's probably plenty of other people that have that question. And I was like, dang. Okay, so let me just talk. And usually I talk about stuff like in a super, like, non intimidating way. I try to try to make it non intimidating. But, yeah, so if you think about that, like I thought about, oh, what do I know about sex? And what's my definition of sex? And so if we go back to like, what we were taught about sex, it probably takes us back to like, the first time we heard about the birds and the bees were like, Oh, definitely not what I thought it was. And then I learned more. Yeah. But, you know, I started thinking about sex in this idea of an experience and a way to communicate between two people away to get on a deeper level, more intimate level, connect with the divine power. And just like sync up, connect, like connections, the big word for me. And it was like, wait, this definition does not have must achieve orgasm in this definition. And so I was like, okay, that's kind of enlightening. Yeah. And then it also didn't say sexual intercourse, which like, for many of us that grit like, I, I'm a woman, I like men like, my, I have a boyfriend. And so I've never been with a woman. So I don't know that side of the playing field or anything. But most of us grew up thinking that sex was sexual intercourse, you know, like, penis and vagina. And when I said that, I just thought about the movie. Kindergarten Cop.

Jon Mendoza 49:13
Yeah,

Lindsey Matthews 49:14
girls, or girls have vaginas. Boys have penises? Yeah. Yeah. And so just like, wait, none of this is in the definition that I wrote down. So I think we, like, just need to explore our definition of what sex is first, and then dive down like the anatomy part of it. And so that's kind of what I wrote on my social media was, hey, what does sex mean to you? This is what it means to me. And then here's some here's a little bit of knowledge. From all the things I've read, women can experience like four to 12. Somebody even said 15, but I think it's more like four to 12 different types of orgasms. I've only ever experienced like two, maybe three And so I don't know how to compare that or who am I comparing to? Um, but the research also says that men can only experience one type of orgasm. And so, okay, right there. We're like, okay, that's what we're working with. Right. And so with women, it's either clitoral orgasm or vaginal, and the clitoral, which believe it or not, was left out of anatomy textbooks until maybe the 90s. So like, think about that, Kelly? Yes.

Jon Mendoza 50:35
Like, if I go look back matters and like Grey's Anatomy.

Lindsey Matthews 50:38
Oh, it may like the old versions may not even have it in there. Wow. Yeah. So we literally just discovered what the clearest was in the late 1900s. Like 1990, like, the same time oj fled in his book Bronco is like we're discovering the clutter.

Jon Mendoza 50:56
There's a joke in there somewhere. Yeah.

Lindsey Matthews 50:58
Put make a meme about that. I don't know. Yeah, exactly. So the cleaners has like over 8000 nerve endings, which is similar like, same kind of idea as a penis but a lot more nerve endings. And then you have vaginal orgasms. And vaginal orgasms are a lot less common. More women have orgasms via their clitter s then vagina and vagina. When you say vaginal orgasms, you're basically referring to they an orgasm from penetration? Not there's no quitter is happening there. Right. And that is a lot less common. So if you think about that, like I think it's the stat was somewhere around one in five or less than one in five have vaginal orgasms. So there's probably women listening. They're like, Yes, I don't have to fake it. Okay. But so I'm going to answer this woman's question and see if she's like, Is it possible? Can we sync up? Like it is possible, but I don't want you to have expectations that it has to happen every time. And when it does happen. soak it up, enjoy it, both of you don't grab for your phones, just like lay there and enjoy it. Yeah. And so I gave her some tips. And, you know, some of my tips were that women need more time being aroused. And right, I'm saying this as a female in a relationship with a male like, that's my experience. And females need more time to be aroused. And if you're a male and you're with a female, spend time with her clearest before, because I guarantee once you go like, inside the penetration route, the odds of sinking up on both orgasms are much better. Yeah. And it was amazing. How many DMS I got from women saying like, thank you for saying this. Yeah, okay. Cool. Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 53:02
I I've had many conversations with my wife about just our sexuality from a different point. Yeah, it's okay. I think it's almost rare that you have like, everyone thinks about this white hot, passionate couple that always has sex all the time. Yeah. It doesn't always happen that way. Right? Even when we were trying to have kids. It was a job. It wasn't like it was fun. Like, hey, you need to come home. I'm, like, come home, and I gotta perform. I can imagine I was even thinking this. I was like, Is it gonna be like healthy sperm? Yeah, compared to like, in the moment

Lindsey Matthews 53:37
you got your health care How nice.

Jon Mendoza 53:41
It is to be healthy. Happy sperm. Yeah, of course. It's stressful, you know?

Lindsey Matthews 53:45
Yeah. So

Jon Mendoza 53:46
I was kind of thinking like, well, this is a lot of hard work and all that. But then once you get past that you reconnect again, once you know, you basically pass all your genes on to to offspring. And then you're like, Alright, no, what about us again? Yeah, next, right. Yeah. And what's happened is like, the woman's learning their body again, because it expanded and it came back down again. So there's all these changes, hormones fluctuate up and down, range changing. They don't feel like themselves anymore. They don't feel sexy. They don't feel sexy. Yeah, the last thing we want to do is have you come on to them because they're like, I don't feel up to it. I'm leaking this. Anyway, I don't feel good. I'm pissed off right. Now. The last thing to do is think about that. So the build up I think is really cool. And I even talked to Bob about this. I said, It's rare that people caught each other nowadays. Yes. Right. It's very rare because everything swipe right or left or whatever. That is instant instant. Because it would like like if I want to have sex, it's like, instant sex.

Lindsey Matthews 54:41
I can have sex tonight by getting on Tinder swiping one way Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 54:45
And there's no connection right? The guy says I can just pick this up and do this and Bob bond is done with you can even wear a mask are you doing? Yeah, you can't. So then I think I'm like Alright, well, what does it look like if I really want to connect mentally at this person? Yes. someone I know. There's a term for it, someone said, I'm a person who's sexually attractive to intelligence.

Lindsey Matthews 55:05
I love that.

Jon Mendoza 55:06
Yeah. And they say it just gets me deep conversation conversation stimulation, but the connection, right? Because if you look at dating nowadays, right, like bald, I call them out on that date, right? But imagine like, what's the first conversation going to be like with them? Yeah, if it's not a blind date, and it's a friendship, then you kind of get to know some things, right? But imagine, your body doesn't want kids. Eventually, that conversation has to come up, you have to hit that conversation. So you have to be up and honest about everything. So even like in sex, imagine you tell your partner like, I really like this. And don't like that. You do that? Yeah, I'd rather do this. Yeah. And you have to listen, because always the feedback because you made that feedback. Yeah. I would say the same thing. your partner's like, I don't like that. Yeah, I want this instead. I prefer this over that.

Lindsey Matthews 55:51
Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 55:52
And so nowadays, which is just so odd, is if you can connect with a loved one in a way that, you know, they're your spouse, and you can connect with them. And mentally, you're always going to have a sexual connection, I believe, because you understand how that person works. And you understand their needs. If you're only with someone because it's the sexual energy. Whenever you're not having sex. All the other stuff there, right? I mean, you can you're it's like the second brain takes over, right? Mm hmm. But when you're not there, like, Alright, they're still depressed, there still is anxiety, you're still these gut issues is still there's mental wellness issues. How do I still connect with this person? Make them feel secure? Yeah. Because when you're done, you hold each other. And there's that warmth? Like you said, right? Don't get on your phones. Don't disconnect again, be there in the moment.

Lindsey Matthews 56:39
So kovanda oxytocin,

Jon Mendoza 56:41
yeah, soak it up, and feel it and feel the sweat and feel the energy and the rush? In that release?

Unknown Speaker 56:49
Yes.

Jon Mendoza 56:50
Whenever you build an around this guy's interaction, it is a sympathetic response. Mm hmm. And it's kind of weird, because truthfully, if you're too stressed and too sympathetic, you cannot achieve interaction. it's it's a it's an issue, because you're heard the term warning wood, right? Hmm. That's a parasympathetic response. You're at your deepest sleep most relaxed. You achieved. Mm hmm. How many guys are so stressed where they came in to cheat? Yeah, yeah. Then when you actually ejaculate, you go into sympathetic mode, and then you drop back into Paris. And that makes sense. And so that's why you feel like I'm so relaxed. I don't want to talk to anyone. You go through sympathetic, parasympathetic, sympathetic again, to parasympathetic. All of a sudden, you had all these mixed emotions. Well, if you're only stuck in sympathetic, and you're stressed all the time, you'll never make that deep connection. Because you're taken by Agra, you're taking some kind of medication. And it's fake. Yeah. Because imagine if like, your beautiful wife or beautiful spouse, and you can't get it up. Mm hmm. Like, Was it me? No, it's me. Yeah, it literally is you you need to basically get out of your own head. reduce your stress. Totally enjoy sex more.

Lindsey Matthews 57:58
Yeah. Right. Be present. Be present.

Jon Mendoza 58:01
Yeah. And I know that there's tons of people who explore outside their boundaries and want to include things and they just like to adventure, which nothing wrong with that. But think about the idea of saying, I just want to have the best sex with my spouse. Yeah, the rest of my life like only what this one person only connect with her. And you just you, you learn every time a little bit more about them. You learn more, you experience more, and then your orgasms become even more intense

Lindsey Matthews 58:27
there. Yeah, there's so much deeper.

Jon Mendoza 58:29
Yeah, yeah. And then it's more profound. And you feel this connection to where, like, you both felt this positive energy. Yeah. And that's the craziest thing because you can have sex and feel like the you didn't connect with the other person Really? Totally. When you and I don't want to say it's making love because you still may have sex.

Lindsey Matthews 58:46
It's a one night stand or

Jon Mendoza 58:48
so there's no connection once again. It's just going through the motions. Yeah, but when you physically mentally and emotionally connect with someone. Mm hmm. That's something that makes you crave it makes you feel better. And you function better like

Lindsey Matthews 59:04
you feel it like on all levels of your body. Your being

Jon Mendoza 59:08
your butt. Yeah, you beam right. Like almost like, you walk in. You're like, Man, you're like glowing. Did you just get laid or something? Yeah, I sure did. And it was great. Right. And it was like, I want that. Not because of sex, but because the feeling afterwards Yeah. Body saying like, I feel refreshed. Yeah. We had a release. You had a connection. And I grew up Catholic. So when you're born a Catholic, Oh, you were basically torn. Told, every time you have sex you have to procreate. So don't only Yeah, have sex when you're going to create? Yeah. And I was like, Well, what about the emotional and the sexual connection? Like we were,

Lindsey Matthews 59:39
that's what I want. Yeah, right. I I remember thinking about this when I was super young. I was like, wait, but sex is a sin.

Jon Mendoza 59:47
Yeah, it's well, why were we designed for it? Yeah. And so like my father and my family, we really didn't talk about it. Yeah, talk about there's a BS I learned through sexual education. Hmm. I learned through him personally. experience. Yeah, I was like, so by the time they told me like, you know, what economists as a guy know, to come and use it. Alright, thanks for the talk. Yeah, good, good chat chat. So, imagine if you grow up and you don't know what real love is like. And you find it through porn, or you find it through like, college, dance and all that. And you're like, just not fulfilling. Mm hmm. There's nothing fulfilling about this, because it's not connecting up here with this.

Lindsey Matthews 1:00:26
Yeah, your brain and your heart and your body aren't connected. It's so true. And you just hit on something where, like, Okay, we got sex ed in school. Imagine as you know, a young woman if they actually taught her about her cycle and embracing her cycle, because I was similar to you. Whereas like, Oh, shit, you just had your period. here's, here's some pads and tampons. Yeah. And that was like the extent of it or, you know, okay. Don't have sex. Don't get pregnant, like, so it'd be a grandma. Yeah, that sort of thing. And then you see the education at school. And it's like, the worst of the worst STDs. Yep. And it's their outdated pictures from like, 10 years prior. So none of that none of the conversations are actually hitting home. And so you're like, wait, but I want to try. I want to experience life. I want to try things. And like, you go out searching because you don't have that within you. You're not getting that at home. And like you said, it's like, Okay, well, I found one thing, but that didn't fill the void. So let me try a different thing. Yeah. And it's just on and on and on. So

Jon Mendoza 1:01:34
I think so imagine if you told and this is weird, because it goes against all the parents. But imagine you don't do sex ed in elementary school. You do a sex ed in middle school, right? And what you do is you have an open conversation about the idea of the beauty behind sex and orgasm. Hmm. So imagine you tell these horny high school and middle school kids, that like sex is a beautiful thing. You have to value you have to create grid, it's sacred to people. I mean, if you want to do more that's on you. Right? But like, it's this connection, that should be glorified. And it shouldn't be taught to be like, whenever you have sex, there's you they're gonna have an STD or you're gonna get pregnant.

Lindsey Matthews 1:02:11
Yeah, there's so much shame around it.

Jon Mendoza 1:02:13
Yeah. And so imagine, like, what I'm seeing now a big movement is women are being more open about their sexuality, hmm. And it if it either offense or is embarrasses men? Yeah. Which is weird, because men aren't very comfortable in their sexuality, even though they are. Most of them are so insecure about performing. Yeah. Did they make it seem like they're a big macho type on the front? But the truth is, they're, they're just as insecure. So like, we're all

Lindsey Matthews 1:02:38
insecure about it. Until we start talking

Jon Mendoza 1:02:42
about so like, I'll have I remember in high school, you're in the locker room and everyone starts talking about whatever. And I was more experienced than most these guys were bullshitting. All right. I didn't have to say anything. Right. They knew it too. But I hear what they're talking about here. They're doing and I'm like, they don't know what they're doing. Yeah, they don't know what the hell they're doing. And so when they get to college, they're fumbling around, they don't know what the hell they're doing. And it's like, well, if you're really good at making love and having sex, you have to practice it over and over again. I mean, really, like 10,000 hours, right? To the point where you're like, I can have sex for two hours, and not come. Imagine you're like, Whoa, that's Tantra. Right? It's tragic. And, like you, you imagine there's a buildup of power. Right? But if like the idea with going back to energy, imagine if I have 20 things I'm giving all my energy to and not focusing on the three that I really would make. Yeah, yeah. Then you're spreading yourself too thin. Totally. Same thing when it comes to like being promiscuous. Yeah, you're like, I'm giving a little bit energy, everyone, but it's not fulfilling. I need to just focus on a person who I can really connect with. Yeah.

Lindsey Matthews 1:03:48
And myself and myself. Yeah. Why harnessing that energy in yourself? Yeah. Is they think that, like, if I would have been taught, you know, with maybe that lens, who knows, like, might have tried still the same things? I don't know. But actually, like harnessing your energy, you have the power. Your body is sacred. It's a sacred experience. You know, it was, it would be a different outlook on the same lens.

Jon Mendoza 1:04:16
Whenever they talk about like, the walk of shame the next day. Yeah,

Lindsey Matthews 1:04:19
literally

Jon Mendoza 1:04:20
means because you're like, I don't know what I did last night. I don't know who this person is. So it wasn't like very meaningful or fulfilling. So like, imagine, you have a one night stand or a couple months with someone. And then you see him again few years later. Hmm. I, it's always interesting to see that reaction yet. Because you're like, we've been intimate. Yeah. And that's the most sacred part of opening up to someone else. So you're most vulnerable, right? Take your clothes off

Lindsey Matthews 1:04:47
me. I've seen you.

Jon Mendoza 1:04:50
And when that happens, so people get embarrassed. Yes, doesn't come out the way they want to. And then you have to see him again. Yeah. And you have to be around them. You almost feel like insecure about the idea that like it didn't go as well as it should have. Right? Mm hmm. But when ever it's supposed to, there's something magical that happens totally. And it's pheromones and things that you can't describe. Oh my god. It's like, yeah, like when I touch that person's knee, there's an energy to I'm just like, Oh, God, I just I can't totally Yeah. And so high fidelity is another great movie I like to talk about. And I remember he said, at one point, he's like, she used to rubber feet over, like, over one another like this, like, mathematical like way. And it was like, even numbers used to drive me nuts. And I'm like, I know that feeling. Yeah, that feeling you hear something, you do something. It's almost like a tick. And you're like, that gets to me. I love that. And, to me, that's what everyone's kind of looking for someone that they can connect with on so many levels. But for all the people out there searching, you might not find the person who's the exact you shouldn't you probably

Lindsey Matthews 1:05:56
shouldn't. Yeah, I'm like, for sure. Yeah, like you want

Jon Mendoza 1:05:59
to date the opposite of you. Right?

Lindsey Matthews 1:06:01
Yeah. Yeah. It's so it's interesting, like you're talking about that, because I was listening to, and I forget where I heard this or read this. But when you're, like looking for a mate, and I think more so like, especially during this time of, I call it COVID, break or reset whatever we got going on. People are really reevaluating their lives. They're like, what I want a partner, I'm not married. I'm not like, what what am I looking for? Yeah. And so if like, you're listening, and you're like, I'm, I'm looking, I'm single, I'm whatever. Like, I would encourage you to write things down. Like write down what you're looking for. And get really clear on, like, what you need as a human being. Yeah. The other thing I was gonna say is this lady, and I believe it was a lady. She was talking about how we as humans, right, like, and you mentioned, smells like pheromones. Like, we are attracted to people smell and it's something in our biology, our DNA that that is so key to, okay, you smell good. I want to have sex with you. I want to make babies with you. It's so primal on that level. But when we start doing things like deodorant, or perfume, or even birth control pills, you know, like, all I just thought about was like, the Axe body spray. Yeah. Oh, but that nask these inches, like, this is how this is why so many people end up picking bad mates. And then they end up in divorce. And that makes sense. Like, that just blew my mind. And I was just like, you stopped the physiology. Like, you stopped the pheromones? Like,

Jon Mendoza 1:07:48
that's a huge filter. That makes complete sense, right? Like, um, I don't know if it's bald, or someone said one time they're like, when women, like wear stilettos, and they were tons of makeup, and they put eyeliner on and highlights and extensions. Oh, they're like, that's not them. Yeah. Here's, I want the real person. Right? Because you can put a lot of makeup on it's like a filter nowadays, right? Yeah. And so it's like, I want to see the person behind it. It's like when he talks to me, I don't want you on I want you off. Right? Tell me. I want to I want to see you in your all your vulnerability. And if I still love you, yeah, because you're vulnerable, then that's something that's true love. You'll never ever find anything better than and you could have five minutes of sex, but it's because you love that person so much. Because you got deeper and you got deeper. Yeah, right. And you could have the best sex ever with someone who is the hottest ever. And if they turn around and have sex with someone else right away, you're like, it didn't mean anything for that person. Yeah, I guess it should mean thing for me. Yeah. But too many times people throw that out there in relation to thinking like, this is what's going to catch them. And it's not and they're like, why can't I change? And why can't and like, yeah, it's not just sex. Yeah, sex has to be on so many different levels. I think that's why women especially now only sex coaches are coming out. Talking about own up and ask for it. You're just as important as the guy. Why does we have to cater to the guys? Yeah, time, right. Yeah. Because it's easy for a guy to kind of get worked up, I think, right, women? You have so many things going on, like complex

Lindsey Matthews 1:09:14
beings. Yes, you

Jon Mendoza 1:09:16
are. Yes, you are so many hormones. And I mean, you can grow a human being for crying out loud. Yeah,

Lindsey Matthews 1:09:20
yeah. And we go through a monthly cycle. Like, there's daily cycles, but we also have a monthly cycle. I know. And it is a up down and all around. So yeah, say we're complex. We're not complicated, but no complex. That's a good way. It's a beautiful thing. Oh, no.

Jon Mendoza 1:09:41
Um, so we went to this International Women's event one time, night, got invited to go and do like our supplements. They're sick. Me a baller there and it was all women. So bothered loved it. And, and this one lady came up to me and it was like, I don't know why y'all are here. It was like, I don't understand. She was well is an international women's day. And all these other businesses are women owned. And who owns your business is like, well, we do. Yeah, well, you're not women. You were invited. We're invited as it might our best friend, like, runs this whole event. She invited us here. And I say, My mom's a woman. Yeah, my wife's a woman. I love women. Yeah. You know, because I love them. So I'm a feminist. Right? And she just looked at me, she didn't like that answer at all. She's like, What? You're a guy as like, I love women. I'm sorry. You know, and I think the appreciation goes so much deeper for me now than I was when I was younger. Right? Because I hate to say it, but I mean, there's a lot fish in the sea when you're younger, right. But when you start seeing when you're older, like, these people got real problems. Like they got all kinds of end the prettiest, perfect. 10 models are impost they have imposter syndrome. Yeah, oppression. I saw this one lady she. I mean, you could tell all this work done on her. Yeah. And she said, I always have felt my whole life that I'm not good enough. Oh, it's heartbreaking, because she's like, I was actually really pretty and already gifted when I was younger. And so everyone looked at me like I was an idiot already, because all I had was big boobs. And I'm just like, that sucks. Yeah, right. Imagine like, you're almost too attractive be taking seriously like, then. I mean, why do we have all these stereotypes?

Lindsey Matthews 1:11:17
There's so many stereotypes. Yeah, it's

Jon Mendoza 1:11:20
but. But what's really cool is, especially with a lot of people we hang out with, there's a lot of there should be a lot of mutual respect between the individuals, regardless of gender. Yeah. And I think what's really cool is there's so many women like yourself, who are getting respect from fellow women. Hmm, because of the outspokenness, and the boldness that you've created, most women hate on women.

Lindsey Matthews 1:11:41
I know and there's no reason. You know what, there's a great book. What was it? How go back and figure it out? It might have been? Yeah, it might have been the book called pussy by Regina Thompson. Awesome, awesome. But, um, I think it was her and she was talking about how, you know, our parents generations grew up with, like, the scarcity mindset have, you got to wear a skirt, you got to wear a dress, you got to look a certain way to catch a husband. And it's like, that's there, or who stole your boyfriend? Or, like that kind of scarcity mindset, I think is where we don't really develop a true sisterhood from Yep, you know, and it's, uh, there's literally they like, if you're supposed to be together, you'll find each other. Yeah. Um, and if you're not, then it's better you find out sooner than later. You know, like, that's where I'm at at 30. Um, but I think we missed the mark, like teaching young girls. And more like, I think it's better now. But like, teaching my generation and my mom's generation, like, Oh, you got to catch a husband, you got to do this thing to appease somebody or to look a certain way. And it's that little scarcity victim mindset that was thrown in there. Rather than love this woman. She's got just as much to offer as you do. You actually being authentic and showing your power is going to show her how to, like, be okay, and step into hers. Yep. And I think that's kind of where we're like settling. Now. It's like, oh, okay, like, we all can have cake. Like we all can have true love and happiness and a successful career and whatever the hell we want, you know? Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 1:13:28
And you shouldn't be denied that because, like, I remember, America told me like, in Oklahoma, that the degree was a Mrs. degree. Yeah, like you go there. Your job was just to get a bachelor, Mrs. Yes. And then find a husband. Yeah. And I have a lot of friends that, you know, we've kind of all grown up together as separately doing things. The women who went corporate, they waited a while to have the family. Yeah, right. My parents even waited and they were teachers. They didn't wait because society told him to wait, because you know, they're young. They don't know what they're doing. They just said, we're not ready for it yet. Like we enjoy ourselves a timeline. It will wait for kids later. If a woman gets to 3738 doesn't have kids. The first thing I would ask him is like, why don't you get Yeah, Jeff,

Unknown Speaker 1:14:11
do you want kids? Do you want Why don't you want?

Jon Mendoza 1:14:13
Yeah, you only want two kids? You know, like, yeah, who gives a shit like, it's my life is whatever I want to do. Baba says he doesn't want any kids.

Lindsey Matthews 1:14:21
That's my sister knew right away. She didn't want kids. Yeah. And so her husband have this dual income life and they love it.

Jon Mendoza 1:14:29
Yeah. And a lot of people are like, I get to travel and do what I want. Yeah. But there's something to be said about that. There's only two types of people in this world. There's a parent and a non parent. Right? Yeah. And so if you're a parent, you understand you're on high alert all the time. Spidey can't turn it off, can't turn it off. It never goes away. If you're a non parent, you get to sleep in and doesn't take you 30 minutes to get to the car to leave the garage, right? Yeah, so Baldo would always look he's like, Why does it take so long to get anywhere? I'm like, three bags. Three water bottles. I got like, diapers. Oh, yeah, they all need their buddies and stuff. Yeah, the levees, the levees, right, all that stuff. And so what's interesting like my sister who has three kids during the, during this whole COVID deal, they knew that homeschool was gonna be opening back up again. And the public schools are gonna do that. She goes, this is a short end of the stick to all women out there, for sure who are mothers. They basically have said here be a caregiver and a professional at the same time. And she's like, they don't say that to guys. Yeah. They don't say Hey, guys, you need to stay home or like, Hey, you need to be the caregiver while the kids and I saw that frustration. I see the feminist move. Yeah, get it to it does suck. Yeah, it does suck. And like I said, all I all the crap that women have to go through when it comes to medicine. stereotypes, like, it's still there. And that's the thing. Like, you could talk about Black Lives movement and all this stuff, too. But women's rights. I think about not Tonga women couldn't vote.

Lindsey Matthews 1:16:06
It's like 100 years ago. Yeah. I mean,

Jon Mendoza 1:16:08
it's incredible. You can literally have Betsy Ross or whoever made the freakin American flag. Yeah, it's like, well, you can't fight for our flag,

Lindsey Matthews 1:16:16
or the the load or the family distributions not equal or Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 1:16:21
yeah. Yeah. And if you're a woman who's aggressive and focused on your mindset, yeah, you're a bitch.

Lindsey Matthews 1:16:29
Yeah, it's interesting. Like the name calling that gets a woman versus like, what we would name call a man and was

Jon Mendoza 1:16:37
like this. Like you said the word rose like you're a pussy. Yeah. So when a woman says, Oh, so I'm really strong. Yeah, she was because I can take

Lindsey Matthews 1:16:45
Yeah, yeah, like I could take it. I know. I would tell my friends don't say pussy derogatory and they're like, Yeah, right. Okay. Yeah. It's just like shifting that lens.

Jon Mendoza 1:16:56
Yeah, I get it. But we've taught it so long time. Totally. And it's like this deal. Like if like, boys don't cry. Yeah. Right. Yeah. There's no crying in baseball and all these good things. And for guys, when they come in here, there. They don't want to open up. Yeah, you ask a woman. How do you feel today? And they'll tell you 10,000 things about what's going on? And they're with their husband. Yeah, the husband comes in. It's like, I don't know. My wife told me to come here.

Lindsey Matthews 1:17:21
Yeah. Well, you know what I think? So here, like, I'm always hesitant to say I'm a feminist, or I'm like, so far that way, because I think then we start shitting on guys. I think guys, I love men like, yeah, I have a boyfriend. I love him. But he is great. And what? I don't want to go too far down the rabbit hole. Okay, so here's where I was going with this is like, we need a balance of masculine and feminine energy. And I think, you know, right now, like, we were talking about being, like, courting, yeah, that's so important. And that we're such different beings, like a male and a female, by biologically, biologically, like, you know, and like you just said, a woman comes in and she opens up and the man is like, I'm cool. Like that good. Nothing

Jon Mendoza 1:18:24
wrong here. Yeah, nothing wrong,

Lindsey Matthews 1:18:25
but and I touched on how like, sisterhood is important, and the need to like, lift each other up. But I think that's just as important for men and men aren't getting that these days. And I think the Brotherhood or whatever you want to call it. But it's that connection in that community that each of us need on a different level different a different way. And like, where does that exist for men in our society? It's tough.

Jon Mendoza 1:18:54
Yeah, it's tough. So I'm a Cowboys fan. I'm just gonna throw it out there you can boo and hiss and laugh all you want to probably laugh the ways things are going

Lindsey Matthews 1:19:02
I didn't know what he was gonna say it.

Jon Mendoza 1:19:04
So the reason I grew up there, I grew up in Austin. Cowboys fan my family's chiropractor, chiropractor, cowboy fan, so I and when I was following the season so far, our star quarterback got hurt. Oh my god, I actually did see that. So yeah, so he broke his ankle that was nasty out for the season. Well, two weeks before that was the first game of season or three weeks, whatever was his brother killed himself. No shit. And when he killed himself, uh, the questions were surrounding the quarterback. How do you feel with your brother doing it because his brother was a little younger, a little older than him forgot what it was. And the quarterback Dak was like, you know, I'm going through a lot of stuff right now. Yeah. And I'm depressed. He came out and said that. I don't feel right. I don't feel good. I'm depressed. Oh, newscaster came out one of those big talking heads and said, if you're the quarterback of Dallas Cowboys, you cannot show weakness. You can't tell your opponent that you're depressed. How dare he said he needs to toughen up and get out there. Now he might even say that for ratings right shock value, but it goes back to the same thing boys don't cry. Are you hurt? Are you Andrew can you get up and do something? And what you're seeing now amongst guys, is this renaissance of bro consciousness. You have all these guys and big ol buff dudes everything but their most humblest sweetest people because they've been broken down and built back up again. And the guys that are like the the bros like Yo, bro, you know, whatever those guys haven't. They don't, they don't have haven't been humbled, they haven't been humbled. And when you live in that world of superficial pneus you only live on the superficial level, you never go deeper. So when I I've been very fortunate since we've been here to where I hug a lot of guys, and I've actually told a lot of guys I love you know, and that doesn't happen outside of like my dad, right? And then my kids, because they're boys, but imagine that you hug someone. And it's the same sex. Yeah. And it's mutual. And you hug someone and that's a hug for 30 seconds. Imagine hugging someone for the hug gets tighter and tighter. And maybe the hearts over the heart. Yeah, high too high. That's most of my hugs with guys. Nowadays, that's powerful. It's very powerful. Because when you hold someone and you're holding their energy, you're taking on whatever they have just so literally changing and you're exchanging energy forcefields and all that you're stepping into the realm. I take that on, it builds me up. When you hug like the guy hug. You know, you get the one hand here with the pat on the back. I'm talking like full on double arms, your bear hug, like grabbing your brother, your daddy on to forever and you hold on to him. I had one of those hugs earlier today. It's so uplifting. Oh, and if women could do that to themselves. Imagine how much better this would be if everyone was just going around hugging each other. And appreciating the fact that you are you and I mean yeah. And that we can share this?

Lindsey Matthews 1:22:03
Yes,

Jon Mendoza 1:22:04
yes. So you don't get to do that now. Yeah, seven months it passed to where the social distance they have not hugged another person. Do we become more comfortable connected with our fellow brethren? After seven months of social distancing? Or not? No, we question we start to

Lindsey Matthews 1:22:19
get scared of our neighbor.

Jon Mendoza 1:22:21
Oh, my gosh, I see your mate your face. Now. I see knows now. Yeah. Before now, I was telling someone that you're going to before you could read lips. Now you're going to read eyes? You have eye readers. Yeah. Right. And it just heightens the senses. Right. But then you have some people who say I'm not feeding into that I am. I am going to feed into love. I'm going to feed into growth, I'm going to be in connection they've asked me that's always want to grow, always want to connect. Yeah, not connected with someone you're not growing, right? Doesn't matter if it's in business or not. Hopefully, if you can't connect with that person, or other people, you won't be successful in business, you're not going to evolve, you're not going to evolve. And so I think like like bolo, for example is one of the guys who can be best friends with like all his exes. I really can't, because there's a civil, mutual respect for that person. Yeah. And most people can't say that about their exes. Right? And so when you grow as an individual, if you leave a relationship, it's not a bad thing, whether it's a friendship when you grew, you took whatever you could from that relationship and you move on to the next thing.

Lindsey Matthews 1:23:29
Absolutely. You took your life lesson. Yeah. And then moved on. Yeah, that's so true. Because so when I was in California, I was in a relationship for eight years. And my ex and I started a gym called Deuce gym. It's out there, like and there's now three, I was gonna say three total, but who knows what's open? Yeah, right. Right. Yeah. Um, but when we decided to part ways, it really was like, society was like, What happened? Like, why did you fail, basically. And it's not a failure. It's just, it's, it's complete. That relationship ran its course. We have a mutual love and respect for each other. We wished each other well. And we went on our way. But yeah, it's kind of like it breakups, like our society, who cheated on who, who did something wrong. And it's like, No, actually, we're both to blame. There's nobody to blame. in it. I view the relationship as it exists. Success, you know, didn't last a lifetime. That's okay. Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 1:24:34
I think most relationships are like that. Yeah. I think you already have a predetermined fate with someone before you even meet them. Yeah. Because we're all paths and balls of energy, just connecting and bumping into one another in this so called existence. Yeah. Then when you bump into someone, excuse me, I'm sorry, I didn't see you there. Right. That was it. If you bump into the same person again, you were meant to meet that person. Yeah, right. If I had a plane ride, coming back from Denver with a person I knew I already knew we're gonna connect. I just knew we were gonna sit there and connect. And even this air, the stewardess is like, so like, you're really hitting it off. You're gonna go on a date with her. I was like, No, no, no, it wasn't that it was like, we were just talking. But we're in conversation, because we're talking a lot with it. We've been meaning to have this conversation. And so for her, it was like, Oh, my God, my mind blown. I can't believe like, you're some kind of Guru. And I was like, No, I'm not just more like, I'm telling you something you already kind of thought I'm just confirming it. Yeah. And so the confirmation is you can do anything you want to do. You can be anyone you want to be like, your universe is crazy. If you're not told that, this is all new to you. And so whenever I look at relationships, I want to gain knowledge. Like I was talking about before, if I'm the smartest guy in the room, I'm in the wrong room. Yeah. I want to gain I want to always learn. I always know that I could be better. Yeah, level up. You love love. If you had that mentality. You're like, Man, I'm doing awesome. I'm just gonna say it. Right.

Lindsey Matthews 1:26:01
You're crushing, crushing it.

Jon Mendoza 1:26:02
I'm thinking like, well, what aren't you doing that you could be working on? Right? Yeah, there's always some improvement. I always do better at this. I always buy this. But you always do something better. Always. So when you're around people who make you better? Yeah. You have relationship that continues? Do you have your inner circle? You have colleagues and you have friends? And you have people that are well wishers? Yeah. But if you have somebody comes into your life, and it burns out, just like that, like think about the romantic relationship that they met, like, like Titanic, right? Yeah. Going out and sit there. Like, for me, that was the best thing, even though it was like three hours, right? Like, especially you should I took something from there. And I used it towards this in my life, I found out I was stronger than I ever could be. Yeah. Because I went through all this stuff for what that person did to me. I didn't break. I was stronger. And I came out on top. And everyone knows what that person did. And knows that I took the higher road. Yeah, right. And you. You can wonder why didn't work out? And I should but that's making

Lindsey Matthews 1:26:59
Wish you can? Yeah, what's the point of that?

Jon Mendoza 1:27:01
Right? Like, I didn't go? Well. I used to say, second guess I could have done this. I could have done that. And then now I'm at the point where it led me to here. Yeah, it led me to this path. I took all that knowledge, all those failed things, all the successful things. And now I'm here. Absolutely. Yeah. And so I think with you, you I think one of the reasons why we connected was because you're that type of person to it says I'm going to grow I'm always going to adapt, but I'm not gonna do the status quo.

Lindsey Matthews 1:27:27
No. Which Yeah, yeah. tough.

Jon Mendoza 1:27:30
It's tough. But But going in trailblazing is also very tough, but it's very rewarding.

Lindsey Matthews 1:27:35
Yeah, right. Yeah. It the the moments where somebody sends you a note, or send you a gift, like, tells you a story. Like those are the things that warm your heart and you're like, Okay, I'm gonna keep going. Yeah.

Jon Mendoza 1:27:50
For the listeners at home. chiropractics have one of the highest satisfaction rates in amongst professionals throughout the world. Yeah, like it's like 80% or something like ridiculous. Yeah. So we get to heal the body. We get to help people. Yeah. And I think it's, I think it's incredible. I think it's going to continue to grow. If you haven't seen a chiropractor before, do it. There's all kinds. I mean, obviously, there's doulas, there's sports medicine, there's neurologists, there's pediatrics, you know, so just find one and stick with them. And and just see how healthy you can get really, totally, I love it. So, but um, for the people to find you, right, leading into how do you find Dr. Matthews? How did they find you?

Lindsey Matthews 1:28:32
Yeah, so you can find me the most go to website his birth that.com. And if you want to even search for a birth fit leader in your area, you can use our directory on the birth that website, but go there if you want any free info, check out the podcast, we have a podcast. And we got lots of online programs for prenatal and postpartum. But if you drop a line there, I'll be sure to get it. If you're in Austin and you want to come see me go to truly chiropractic, tr u l. y. And it's myself and Dr. Morgan and we work as a team. And it's a super chill environment. And yeah, we see pregnant postpartum pediatrics. And like, 80% of our clientele is women. So it's amazing. And I love what I do. So yeah, just like you do, like you get pumped to go to work every day. I love it. Yeah, to help people. Yeah. And you're like, It's fun. It's exhausting. And it's fun.

Jon Mendoza 1:29:38
Think about how many how many people get to say, I helped a lot of people today. And I get to help a lot of people again tomorrow. Yeah. And I'm using my hands in my mind to do it.

Lindsey Matthews 1:29:50
Yeah, I'm just showing up. I'm just showing up. Yeah,

Jon Mendoza 1:29:52
me being there means people get hold. That's a cool responsibility. Yeah, yes. It's me. That's you. So yeah, you're good at what you do. So glad we crossed paths. I look forward to possibly a part two on this.

Lindsey Matthews 1:30:04
Yeah, definitely. Thanks for having me. Yeah.

Baldo 1:30:10
I can just turn this off

now I got it.

 "There's two sets of genes that go into making a baby, no matter if it's sexual intercourse or test tubes, there's two sets of genes. And that plays a role in this human." 

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CREDITS:
Hosts - Jonathan Mendoza, MSW Lounge; Baldomero Garza
Guest - Lindsey Williams
Podcast production - Andy Havranek [@ajhavranekphoto]
Guest coordinator - Baldo Garza
Intro song - Benjamin Banger

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